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The work Era

I have sat on a subway and heard conversation from random strangers, walked on the streets of NYC at different times including during my morning and evening coffees, I've seen people walking their dogs and talk on their cell phones. The number one heated and controversial conversation I hear is regarding how they don't like their co-workers and on top of that hate their job, and the list basically goes on in these two areas. Well, at the crossroads of should and must (below blog) and all of the complaints I have reached one conclusion- complaints attracts complaints. For one thing you have to change your mindset then once you clear out that "kind-of" poison you need to choose a job that you love doing or the MUST.
I understand that you may not know the correct route or the right answer to this question, so it's best to leave it as is. Sometimes not knowing is better than knowing the answer and accepting that you are in a confusion mode. There is nothing wrong with confusion mode and for people who think there is something wrong, well the answer it simple. It's based on their insecurity. Insecurity hits many people and some people are hit with a storm to such an extent that judgement and increased fear conquers their soul. The good part is this has nothing to do with you. The simple awareness factor the secure holds against the insecure leads to integrity. A bit different in quality but both beautiful as one leads to another. That said, move forward, live life because you only really have one shot at it- Life is not a dressing room.
Don't allow petty things such as 'co-workers' , 'the ego', 'what they think and how they judge' affect your want, your character, your direction and most importantly your heart. Grab control of your thoughts before they influence your direction. Your thoughts create everything! The secret recipe of human programming.

BEA Discovery- A Cocoon on May 28th

The gaps and spaces in life all have meaning and every coincidence in life has a definition but should not be looked into a lot. I read a book yesterday specifying the distinction between job, career, and calling. Sometimes you get a job in order to work on things you love in life because you have to pay the bills. Then you have more bills to pay and you have to stay in that job even more until what you love to do and this "unwanted bill paying job" get to a break point.

Ultimately, the real mental awakening comes when red flags as to "What am I doing in this job?", "I have so much more potential!", "I am doing the work of 4 people!" or "This stuff is so, so, soo elementary for me!" or "My co-workers are so different than I and I feel useless" arise at work. Well, with loads of honesty ringing in I feel I've felt that I've had one or two of those phrases coming in and out at one time or the other. Well, the reality of the situation is simple. If you have a job you don't like try using your PM hours or weekends doing what you love until you can quit the job you don't like. Now, if the job you don't like eats up your time and doesn't allow you to do what you want to do then eventually you will forget about what you LOVE in life- your actually being- and go back doing what you "should" be doing and not what your being "must" be doing. Then you are simply not being you and are doing someone else's duties- the should. The should maybe something your parents drilled into your head or society has pressured you to become or do.

Sometimes that gap or that space of doing what you don't really want to do but are doing it to get closer to your shoulds clears and polishes the path to what your MUST is. It is a bridge, a polisher, a learning curve, but never compromise your Must for the Shoulds in life.

Must is like being in love. When you Know, you know. — Elle Luna


Check out the crossroads of Should & Must on Elle Luna's article that quickly went viral!


Shaghayegh

Life is Gorgeous

A couple of nights ago I watched Life is Beautiful, the movie capturing the difficulties a Jewish father goes through while structuring the concentration camp as a fun and game-like place for his little boy. I can't imagine a harsher treatment and form of life than the ones existing in such camps and the intolerable cruelty and disrespect these individuals went through.
It was one father's kindness and view of the world that changed the life of his little boy and eventually his mother's.
I went to sleep that night thinking about THIS particular view of life and in the morning while coming to work I saw a bus pass by me with a big inspirational billboard reading: "Life is Beautiful".
Head's up...Sometimes the messages received can only be glued to your thoughts and emotions if you are aware how lucky you are and put on the see-thru all difficult illusions glasses. Everything is achieved with ease and simplicity- if not then it's not for you.

Gratitude is the easiest way to think of such simplicity. Right now, you have more than you need.

Guido: [pretending to translate] The game starts now. You have to score one thousand points. If you do that, you take home a tank with a big gun. Each day we will announce the scores from that loudspeaker. The one who has the fewest points will have to wear a sign that says "Jackass" on his back. There are three ways to lose points. One, turning into a big crybaby. Two, telling us you want to see your mommy. Three, saying you're hungry and want something to eat.

Guido: If you speak my name, I vanish. What am I? Silence.

ShF!

Anthony de Mello quotes

“Perfect love casts out fear. Where there is love there are no demands, no expectations, no dependency. I do not demand that you make me happy; my happiness does not lie in you. If you were to leave me, I will not feel sorry for myself; I enjoy your company immensely, but I do not cling.”
― Anthony de Mello, Awareness

"I have no fear of losing u, for you aren't an object of my property, or anyone else's. I love you as you are, without attachment, without fears, without conditions, without egoism, trying not to absorb you. I love you freely because I love your freedom, as well as mine.”
― Anthony de Mello 

The Happening Impossible

It sometimes strikes me that many people are working for the purpose of survival and not really breaking free and moving forward with what they want to accomplish- their real potential. After watching the movie Limitless and Lucy last week I realized the human mind really uses 20% of their brain capacity while the remainder is unused. So this question comes to mind: Why are we not using the remainder 80%? or Why are we not being courageous enough to step out of the comfort of the 20%? Is it really that difficult? Are we cowards or is using the 80% not in our power?
If it is part of us so why not use it. This is similar to not going to the gym and cultivating our muscles.
Maybe this could be the answer to everything we perceive as problems simply by using the 80%.

First step (other than watching those two movies!) is to simply becoming aware. The brain is similar to a magnetic energy field and attracts to it whatever we desire. There may be a time lapse but that doesn't mean it is not attracting or in the process of attracting. An interesting thought came in my head, if energy is to be plugged into, then this magnetic brain field is also to be plugged into. How? By focusing, being, and disregarding fear! Let me ask you this. How do you know someone is looking at you on the bus? Not because you have a mole on your face or you are wearing their favorite color sweater (well, it maybe that but that doesn't usually last long) but because of the energy fields colliding. Energy attracts energy and their energy is trying to attract your energy. Simple as that. The only time you may not feel it and suddenly realize it when you look up is if you were focused on your book or in your own thoughts. Bingo. Vallah!
It's as simple as that. Be aware, use your brain cells....they are there for a reason! You have no limits nor boundaries.

ShF

Creating a Breakthrough Moment- Huffington Post Blog

At the risk of being vulnerable I have finally finished my semi-memoir and ready to share it with the world! Yes- every female teenager and her parents along with every human being that has or will be going through a similar experience. The first stop for my new book "The Burden of My Red Lips in Tehran" is with the Huff Post Blog! The first place to make it so (soo) public. Check out the link below and enjoy it to the max!


http://www.huffingtonpost.com/shaghayegh-farsijani/a-journey-from-brooklyn-t_b_7070838.html